Since Deep Sober started, lots of people have come to us with questions about their addictions and other mental health issues. Whilst we are not professional counsellors and can only speak from our own experience, here are answers we’ve given to at least some of those questions. Don’t hesitate to email us if your question isn’t answered here.
Q: How do I know if I’m an alcoholic or addict?
A: The simple fact is that only you can answer this question. However, I’d suggest that the very fact that you’ve asked it suggests strongly that you know that you already have a problem. Ask yourself straight questions about your drinking, answer honestly and weigh things in the balance. You know the answer already.
However, if you are looking for more of a metric-based answer, you could do worse than answer these questions.
Q: Why am I like this?
A: There’s no simple answer to this. It’s probable that trauma of some kind lies at the heart of it but, with therapy, that can be dealt with over time. For now, seek help immediately and begin the process of recovery.
Q: Can Alcoholics or Narcotics Anonymous help me?
A: Yes. AA and NA have helped untold thousands of people get sober and lead happy lives. They are certainly a great starting point for people looking to get sober. Bear in mind that 12 Step programmes such as these are spiritual in nature, so there will be talk of God and such like, but don’t be put off by that. If you’re struggling then you will find support, kindness and immediate help at an AA, NA or any 12 Step meeting. Don’t be afraid to walk through the door. It might just save your life.
Q: Can I ever stop drinking and lead a normal life?
A: Yes. More than that, you can stop drinking or using and begin living the happy life you deserve. It may not feel like it right now, but you have within you an iron will to survive and thrive. We’re not going to sugar coat it by saying that everyone will make it, because some won’t. Tragically, suicide and the sometimes irreparable physical and mental damage caused by substance abuse are very real. Don’t let that person be you.
Q: How can that happen?
Even at your lowest point, your body and mind are fighting for you to survive and not let go. You will almost certainly need help, probably professional help, to get through this stage, but in time and with support, self-love and care, you will stop drinking or using and begin to truly live again. Never let go of this thought.
Q: My family member or friend is an alcoholic or drug addict. How can I help them?
A: The best way to help an addict is to support them, but get them to seek some kind of professional or therapy group support (AA for instance). Also get help for yourself too. Al-Anon are just one of the groups who offer help to the friends and families of addicts. Because there is one thing for sure: you won’t be able to help them on your own. In full flood, addiction is a raging monster that can drag you down with your friend and destroy your life too. Help your friend, be there for them if you can, but seek experienced third-party support for both them and yourself.
Q: Do you cover other mental health problems and conditions?
A: Yes, we do. Whilst our main focus is recovery from addiction, we recognise addiction in itself as a mental health problem. As such, we occasionally cover different conditions, often those that are misunderstood in the wider community.
Q: Where are you based?
A: Strictly speaking, in the Gold Coast, Australia but this site is for anyone who needs it, anywhere in the world. We’re not able to offer drop-in or telephone support, but feel free to email us with questions and see our Links page for more support resources.